Thursday, May 29

Canned

This morning I received an e-mail from the people whose wedding I was hired to photograph, along with bridals and engagements. Apparently, I do not have enough experience, they did not like the engagements, and they expect a refund.

I would not be too upset normally, I handle rejection well, I am no stranger to it. When they first approached me, I told them that I was not comfortable with the idea, and that I have very little experience with weddings and have never photographed one by myself. BUT, this family convinced me to do it, offering encouragement with a friendly demeanor. I expected an extremely modest fee because I was doing it for a friend. I explained my concerns about me not having enough experience, about having limited time to take on this venture, and that I expected a lot of feedback about what they would like and how I can improve. At the time, they were very generous, offering a price far, far higher than I was expecting, and telling me they were glad to give me the chance to gain some experience, and seemed all too friendly.

Over a month after they saw the rough proofs, I received no further communication until today, where I was informed I was no longer needed. There is a difference between being rejected and being led on and snubbed. I am embarrassed. I put probably 8 hours of work into the photos alone, not to mention the drive to where they were for the engagements. I feel abused, and ashamed. I am legitimately offended by these people. Lesson learned I guess. Be wary of kind words. Needless to say, I gave them their money back in its entirety along with their pictures. Not my problem anymore and they can get on with their day, which should go perfect. What a great way to wake up and start the day. No more business with friends. Every time I have attempted it I have been burned. It's a bad idea, folks, don't do it. Today is a mopey day.

After I get over the hurt feelings, I also realize that now not only do I not have enough for the tent I was saving up for, but am not struggling to cover the cost of the trip I just went on, as they had payed me in advance. I really just want to cuss. Piss.

6 comments:

the photoSmith said...

DUDE?!?!?!?! You gave them their money back?!?! They're not your friends they're clients and you gave them a service despite if they liked it or not. Did you have them sign a contract? Those people are @#@#$%^&!! This pisses me off and it's not even my issue. What jerks!!! I don't blame you for just cutting all ties though, sometimes it's better to cut your losses and be done with it. You're probably a way better photographer than what they'll get and they're gonna bay 10 times the amount they were for you. Their loss and ignorance...

amanda said...

Now I would not go so far to say that you should never do business with friends! Our engagement pictures were absolutely fabulous:) That is still quite sucky tho :/

Teysha Faith said...

PISS. i LOVE it. such a fantastic cuss word. i don't even remember what was in this blog before the word "piss." i have some memory of it being somewhat sad... but no matter, the "piss" cheered me all up. i can go about my night now quite pleasantly, thanks for that, wall.

Lisa said...

Hi Paul, hope you haven't returned a full refund. After a month, one would assume they were satisfied! And surely, most would understand that after a month a college student would no longer have the money! If they are true friends, they would at least not expect you to cover the expenses you incurred. Consider becoming a travel writer. Loved reading about your road trip with he cool quotes! Impressive!

aA said...

The travel alone should have been withheld. Mr Photosmith sent me here, now I'M mad!

They're Philistines, and all their taste is in their mouth. And obviously their tongues are made of mud.

Birdwells said...

Man this really sucks! I can't believe this happened. You are a great photographer and don't let anyone sway you differently! :)